Government video celebrates both parents in separated families

2 July 2013

Sorting Out Separation: Parents Working Together is a new video on the government’s website, visit video

Growing up is challenging for any child. It’s even harder if their parents have split up. That’s why it’s important for separated parents to work together to help their children through life’s obstacles.

This video signposts the way to find advice and support, celebrating the role that both parents can play in a child’s upbringing. For more information on a range of separation issues, links, useful tools and videos visit www.sortingoutseparation.org.uk or search #sortingoutseparation on Twitter

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  • nongenderbias9 says:

    On the video we see two parents cooperating in a friendly and respectful manner. This must be a good message to portray to any couples who manage to be dignified and respectful throughout their divorce. However this does not seem real. If they had so much respect for each other then why would they be splitting up? So this video is not real, perhaps one in a hundred might retain a workable level of respect. In reality couples separate after bitter acrimonious struggles that have become entrenched and beyond resolution. It is often in this atmosphere that kids feelings are ignored. There is a deep sense of loss and hurt, sometimes anger becomes the focus of a parents attention. If you have ever been through divorce you will already know that the main focus of our agencies (social services, cafcass, etc) is to see that chidren are safely ensconced with Mum whilst Dad continues to work harder to bring in money to support not one household, but now two, because he has been thrown out. If you go to the respective websites you will see that this is actively encouraged. For example, they say it is important for the children to have ONE secure base (i.e. mothers) and that it is not necessary for a father to sleep in the same house as his children overnight (they recommend daytime contact for Dad, but of course don’t forget Dad is also expected to work harder because he is the breadwinner), so in fact the message is, Dad is ok so long as he is not around (to upset Mum in her difficult job) and he is not required at night times. It is hardly surprising therefor that we have a national social catastrophe of absent fathers, a burgeoning industry of single-mother led organisations and a strong anti-father lobby. If we want the family to survive we have to look at successful families and model our policies around them. Do you want to separate and damage the ties that bind families together or do you want to mend and heal them?

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